Is It Time To Consider Assisted Living?
November 28, 2011 § Leave a comment
It’s a tough question to even ask ourselves, and the first time the thought pops in your head, it may be overwhelming and make you feel extremely guilty. While deciding if it is time to consider assisted living for your loved one can be a very emotional topic, the ultimate concern needs to be the health and welfare of that individual.
One thing to keep in mind while you decide if it is time to discuss assisted living, is how is the parent coping with day-to-day activities. Noticing a decline in basic things like hygeine, eating and home safety may be some of the first signs that some sort of additional care needs to be discussed.
Here is a list of questions to ask that may help you make up your mind. List courtesy of agingcare.com.
- Is your parent telling you that he is eating, but you’re seeing food go bad in the refrigerator?
- Is your parent falling? To determine the answer, is your parent covering up bruises he or she doesn’t want you to see?
- Is your parent wearing the same clothes when you go to visit? Can they bathe themselves, groom adequately and launder clothes?
- When you look around the house or yard, is it as neat and clean as it used to be?
- Is your aging parent remembering to take medications correctly, with the right dosages and at the right time? Are medications expired?
- Are they able to operate appliances safely? Do they remember to turn appliances off when they are finished cooking?
- Is the home equipped with safety features such as grab bars and emergency response systems?
- Do they have a plan in place to contact help in case of an emergency?
- Are they driving? Should they be driving? Do they have alternate means of transportation?
- Are there stacks of papers and unpaid bills lying around?
- Do they have friends, or are they isolated from others most of the time?
- When you really look at your parent, do you see the bright and vibrant person from years ago, or do you see a more limited person who needs some help one hour a day, or even around the clock?
Once you’ve had some time to mull over your answers to the questions above, it may be time to have a family meeting with your loved one and express your concerns. When you do meet, make sure to keep the topic of discussion the parent’s safety and wellbeing. While having them live alone has probably been tough on the family caregivers, mentioning this fact could make the senior feel like they are being shipped off to a home to convenience you.
Be warned that having one family meeting may not bring about an immediate decision to move. There will be many things to discuss before an ultimate decision is reached. Your family may want to consult with an elder care attorney who can help you understand all aspects of moving into a elder care facility.
If you or your family needs help deciding if an assited living situation is right for a family member, please contact the Law Office of Dawn M. Weekly, PC. The law firm is located in Sandwich, Illinois and focuses on elder law and Life Care Planning for clients. Their office may be reached by calling 815-570-2334.