Recognizing the Need for Outside Help in Caregiving

January 4, 2013 § Leave a comment

Caregivers often don’t recognize when they are in over their heads, and often get to a breaking point.  After a prolonged period of time, caregiving can become too difficult to endure any longer.  Short-term the caregiver can handle it.  Long-term, help is needed.  Outside help at this point is needed. « Read the rest of this entry »


Healthy Holidays!

November 9, 2012 § Leave a comment

This time of the year, the holidays can be overwhelming.  There are holiday parties, decorating, shopping and meal preparations to be made.  Moreover, there are mom and dad with Alzheimer’s or dementia and you are the primary caregiver.  Your brother and sister cannot believe you want to put mom and dad into a home.  Arguments ensue.  Mom and dad keep following you around the house turning off the decorations you just turned on.  Your spouse is working late and your teenager is having a meltdown over a breakup and you—you are just trying not to have a nervous breakdown. You are human and you cannot take anymore.  Something has to give, right?

Right.  This time of the year, caregivers really forget about their own physical and mental health needs.  Care giving is akin to any other chronic stress experience.  Your body will be affected by physical and psychological strain over long periods and can often be accompanied by unpredictability and uncontrollability.  This stress will have secondary effects on the other relationships in your life such as work, family and it will directly affect the person you care for.

For you, this high level of stress can lead to chronic illness, psychological distress, impaired health habits and possibly death.  For the person receiving care, you can directly affect their behavior problems, their cognitive abilities, their functional abilities and their physical and mental health.  In order for you and your loved one to remain healthy and happy this holiday season, remember, you need to care for yourself.  The following tips may make the holidays a little easier when you are feeling overwhelmed:

  1. Eliminate the battleground.  If holiday meals are a time for squabbles regarding a loved one’s physical or mental health, the care you are giving or the money you are spending, have a phone conference or a meeting with your relatives beforehand.  Make sure relatives have a realistic idea of what to expect.  Never talk about the disabled person’s disability or illness in front of him or her.
  2. Keep your own doctor appointments or make time for a massage.  Do something nice for yourself.
  3. Get plenty of rest and stress reducing exercise.
  4. Eat healthy, including snacks when you need them.
  5. If you just do not have the time to make a large meal, consider a brunch or have the meal catered.
  6. Enlist the help of family or friends.  Never be afraid to ask for help!  It is one of the most generous things you can do for yourself and your loved one.
  7. Enlist the help of a respite care service.  Many of them have adult day programs or someone that can come to your home while you run your errands.  Respite service will give you a chance to prepare a meal, get shopping or housework done.  Alzheimer’s and dementia patients in particular tend to enjoy holiday festivities.  They enjoy decorating cookies, singing carols and even visiting with Santa.  It helps them remember traditions and holidays from the past.
  8. When you are with your loved one, try to include him or her in what you are doing.  They may not be able to make cookies or go shopping, but they may be able to decorate and wrap.
  9. Involve as many people as you can that are important to your loved one, but keep everything as simple as you can.  Because your time and their declining health, some holiday traditions may need to be modified or discontinued.  You can always create a new tradition.
  10. Most importantly, make your loved one feel special.  If they are wrapping a gift or following you around re-arranging your decorations, tell them they are doing a great job.  You will have them beaming from ear to ear.

Please keep in mind this holiday season those you love and those that are less fortunate.  A sincere message of love can be understood by anyone – even if they lack the capacity to reciprocate.

If you have any questions, please contact Legacy Law Firm, LLC.  The firm is located in Sandwich, Illinois and focuses on elder law and Life Care Planning.  The office may be reached by calling 815-570-2334 or via email at

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National Caregivers Month

November 1, 2012 § Leave a comment

There are only four kinds of people in the world – those who have been caregivers, those who are currently caregivers, those who will be caregivers and those who will need caregivers” – Rosalyn Carter

As we head into November, it is time to once again celebrate National Family Caregivers Month. The National Family Caregivers Association (NFCA) began promoting the celebration in 1994 and in 1997 President Clinton signed the first annual proclamation which has since been signed by all succeeding presidents. « Read the rest of this entry »

Caregiver Care – Medical Tests You Need

October 15, 2012 § Leave a comment

One of our most popular themes in this blog is caregivers.  The number of family members that have taken on the role of caregiver is on the rise and due to our aging population, that number will continue to rise.  With so many of us becoming caregivers with little to no previous experience, it’s no wonder caregivers end up over stressed, burned out and even physically ill due to the pressure of their responsibilities.

Our blog has discussed frequently how important it is for caregivers to take care of themselves and one such way is to maintain regular doctor check ups and screenings.  Testing can help your doctor catch disease early and therefore have a much better chance at successful treatment. « Read the rest of this entry »

Top 5 Things That Will Burnout A Caregiver

September 12, 2012 § Leave a comment

It’s easy to get lost in the day-to-day routine if you are a caregiver and before you know it you hit the wall and realize you are beyond burned out.  It’s also easy for us to tell you to take time for yourself and ask for help, but what are some real examples of how you avoid reaching those high stress levels? « Read the rest of this entry »

Social Activity May Lead To Better Quality of Life for Elderly

September 4, 2012 § 1 Comment

Last week we highlighted a few studies that were presented at the Alzheimer’s Association International Conference.  The report from Oregon Health & Science University tracked patients with mild cognitive impairment (a risk factor for Alzheimer’s) over three years.  They tracked their activities outside of the home.   Researchers found the more time the participants spent at home translated to less outside stimulation, and ultimately, more isolation and depression.

Previously there have been several studies that have shown a lack of social support is related to negative impacts on health and well being, especially for older people.  Having a variety of positive social supports can contribute to psychological and physical wellness of elderly individuals.  Support from others can be important in reducing stress, increasing physical health and defeating psychological problems such as depression and anxiety. « Read the rest of this entry »

New Studies Shed Light On Caring For Those With Alheimer’s

August 28, 2012 § Leave a comment

Last month the annual Alzheimer’s Association International Conference was attended by scientists and health care providers from around the world to present and discuss the latest research on the debilitating disease.  Of course, there were several reports on new drugs that are in some stage of production, but there were also a presentations that included advice for caregivers of Alzheimer’s patients. « Read the rest of this entry »

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